On Relationships and Gratitude
"Love those people with whom destiny has surrounded you." — Marcus Aurelius
In exploring the Stoic concept of philostorgia—a term that conveys a deep, affectionate bond among people—I’ve come to appreciate the friendships that fate has placed along my path. These relationships, whether enduring or fleeting, have shaped who I am. There is a profound sense of gratitude that arises from being truly aware of the people who enrich our lives.
Above all, I remain deeply grateful for my wife. When we first met, I was so shy I couldn’t even bring myself to ask her out—too afraid of rejection. Whatever the reasons she chose to give me a chance, I count it among the greatest blessings Fortune has granted me.
Friendships, in all their forms, have helped me grow. Some have endured, others have faded, and a few ended before I was ready to let go. I still grieve those losses. Yet, I remain thankful for having experienced them at all. The value of a friendship lies not in its duration, but in its depth and impact. Wouldn’t you agree? Even brief connections can leave lasting impressions.
As a psychologist, I am deeply grateful for the role that Fortune has played in connecting me with clients from an extraordinary range of backgrounds and life experiences. Many of these individuals come from walks of life so different from my own that, under ordinary circumstances, our paths might never have crossed.
Each client brings a unique story—rich with complexity, resilience, and insight—that has left a lasting impression on me both professionally and personally. These encounters have not only deepened my understanding of the human condition but have also served as powerful catalysts for my own growth and development. I often reflect on how these moments feel like more than coincidence; they seem like meaningful opportunities presented by Fortune to expand my empathy, perspective, and humanity.
Interestingly, clients are often unaware of the profound impact they have on those who support them. In the therapeutic space, the focus is rightfully on their journey, their healing, and their goals. Yet, in bearing witness to their courage and transformation, I too am changed. It is a quiet, reciprocal process—one that continually reminds me of the privilege and responsibility inherent in this work.
Ultimately, my deepest gratitude is reserved for Fortune itself—for the serendipitous encounters, the unexpected bonds, and the people who have walked beside me, however briefly. I thank it with all my heart.